The separation has gotten more challenging with children.
My husband leaves every year and honestly I never once think about the negative qualities(at least not hardly). All I ever miss is his presence. I miss his hugs and his kisses. I miss all those simple things. I miss him always sitting down to listen to me talk on and on. Lord knows I can talk into his ear for hours. He is a quiet man and willingly sits for as long as I need him. He may not say much but he sure can listen. I would give up so much just to be able to fall asleep next to him. He has always made sure that I feel safe and when he is around, I sleep soundly. I miss seeing him driving through our gate after 14hours of work. I miss him taking me on long car drives. I miss him just sitting down eating dinner with us as a family. I hate waking up every morning and not seeing that he made me breakfast. Instead I am left home thinking about how much I miss my husband and all those precious qualities that he brings to our marriage. Every night we eat dinner and there our daddy doll sits in his absence. My heart hurts to see his empty chair. I value that he wakes up every day and goes to work in order to provide for our family. I miss having him around to keep up on the maintenance of our vehicles or to fix all the things that break around the house. His absence constantly forces me to view life with a different perspective. His deployments allow me to miss all his positive qualities.
When he returns home that is all he usually hears. I build up his ego with an ear full of all the things I appreciate and value about him within our marriage.
I pray that other women learn to appreciate their man for all his GOOD qualities so that he does not get lost among the rubble of negatives. If we don’t build them up then chances are they will be tempted to find someone else who will stroke their ego. Honestly we all have problems and irritating habits. What if your spouse were to go away? What if you had to spend long periods of time separated? Would any of those irritating habits even matter? How much of the small aspects would you miss? Marriage is not easy. It takes work every single day. I place my marriage as a priority over my children some if not most days. The kids will one day grow up and live their life. However, I am connected to my spouse for life. That means we had better figure this out. Maybe if more people would try to change their own faults instead of changing their spouse, the world would have a lot happier people. The moral of the story; despite the dirty sock you might find for the 15th time that was not in a laundry basket, be grateful for your husband. Appreciate what he DOES do around the house.